Every Relationship is an assignment.

If that is true, that every relationship is an assignment, and it is.....then what is the lesson?  What rings true for me is the lesson is to return to Love.  And that is not some Pollyanna new age philosophy because if you think about it, what problems exist when you are in a pure state of experiencing Love?

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin was a French Priest and philosopher and one of my favorite quotes from him is;  "Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, tides and gravity we shall harness for God the energies of Love and then for the second time in the history of the world, Man will have discovered fire".  When Man discovered fire as an element and how to create fire, it profoundly changed life for man as you can imagine.

The portion of the quote I want to focus on in this post is "we shall harness for God the energies of Love.....".  Harness means to control and make use of, so in the context of the quote, think of it terms of "we shall make use of for God the energies of Love".  How many people do you think look at Love in that context?  In my experience, most people think of Love as something that happens to them through their experiences in relationships.

Love is who and what we are.  As humans, we experience life through our emotions and on the spectrum of emotions, on one end is Love and on the other is Fear.  Fear is an illusion, as in False Evidence Appearing Real (I didn't come up with that analogy, but I like it).  Your True Self, or inner guide, or Holy Spirit or however you refer to your essence that has never been born and will never die, in other words, your connection to GOD, the Universe or Source is Pure Love.  We always have access to our True Self, but for most people we rarely deliberately allow our True Self to come forth.

So why do we spend so much time coming from fear?  For the opportunity to deliberately allow in our True Self, because when you choose to move from fear to Love, the experience is nothing short of Bliss or ecstasy and the feeling is amplified ten fold.  Don't take my word for it, try it.  The next time you interact with someone that annoys you, or frustrates you, or you feel is attacking you, or judging you.....say to yourself, "I could have a different thought, I could allow Love into my thoughts about this situation" and see what happens.  It will be miraculous because that is exactly what a miracle is, a change in perspective.

I'll give you an example.  Several years ago, I sat in a staff meeting at my work place.  The discussion  began to get a little contentious as it sometimes can as people including myself began defending their positions on a topic.  It dawned on me how unproductive this was, and I sat back for a few seconds (literally 15 seconds) and just observed the meeting.  I then began to envision a violet haze (the color I associate with Love) within the room and began mentally sending Love to everyone in the room.  Literally, one person who is traditionally very rigid in their position said "I don't see it that way, but I don't think I understand where you are coming from, can you help me understand your position".  It was one of those moments when nobody knows what to think and then just like that, the entire room's collective energy changed to collaborative.  It was awesome!!!

Had I harnessed the energies of Love?  I'm convinced of it, but who cares, it was awesome and the conversation then became productive.  Now, think about when we were all defending our positions.  Where was that coming from?  Fear, the illusion that in a corporate environment I need to be right.  The illusion that I need to appear to be a major contributor.  How is that progressive or based in growth and evolving?  It's not, its based on False Evidence Appearing Real that my worth is derived by how many times I am right.  Something to make note of, I had no personal bias or preconceived notion of what I wanted to happen when I visualized the Violet haze and sending Love to everyone.  Love is not personal, its Universal.  At that moment, it just felt better than defending my position on the topic.

So try this out the next time you find yourself in the classroom of a relationship.  Just start that internal dialogue with yourself "I could have a different thought, I could allow Love into my thoughts about this situation" and see what happens.  I promise it will be miraculous, because a miracle is just a change in thoughts or perception.  That's all.

So to close I will leave you with one of my new rituals for the new year.  I learned this from one of my teachers.  I get quiet at the beginning of the day which has somehow become lately anywhere between 3AM and 5AM......but at any rate, I get quiet and I have that internal dialogue and I ask my True Self or inner guide;  "What would you have me do today?  Who would you have me be today?  "How would you have me serve today?".  And then I just move through the day, and I have to say I am much more in tune with growth and progress and less involved in resisting and fear....and its pretty freaking awesome how my experience changes because I am much more in tune with my True Self.  Try it, I dare you!!!